Aug 15, 2014 - Blog, Jewels of Wisdom    No Comments

Lies Hurt Forever

Lies Hurt ForeverI often say I can tolerate a fool. But I have no time for liars! At least a fool has an excuse for being who they are. But lying is calculated and planned out. It has to be. Even if it’s on the spur of the moment the calculation is “Lie=self preservation+time to run+time to lie some more to cover this lie”.

I know, I’ve done it. We all have. I remember when I was a kid I went through that stage where I would tell lies to people like they were facts. My mother was a gifted intuitive who could push through a lie like tissue paper. She would ask me a question, “Why are you late home from school?” I would answer, “I had detention.”

“For what?”

“I don’t know. The teacher was mean!”

“So how did you get home?”

“I walked along the train tracks.”

“That does it! They know that you live far from the damn school. They can’t just keep you after class and not call me. I was worried!!! (Notice the emotional guilt here). “I’m going to call that principal and God help them!”

She knew darn well that I was lying. She picks up the phone and I start crying. The school never did get a call. But I sure got a licken’.

Later I would learn the significance of that small yet painful lesson. I would learn that a lie could not just hurt me, but hurt the very people I love. And it would cause them to lose trust.

I had a person once who lied constantly about what they were doing that was not supposed to be happening. When I’d figure it out my ‘trust metre’ would drop. 100% to 50%. Then if they were lucky it may climb again in time to 60% or even 80%. But then the same old lie happened. The trust metre would drop to 35%. Then over time it may go up again. Then a lie would drive it back down. Each time, trust would be taken away and never come back. Each time, that became more and more. So much so that when the metre broke I terminated that relationship. I will never trust that person again. I can’t even have them anywhere near my life again because, even with forgiveness, trust can never be restored.

You know what I’m talking about. You’ve had it happen. Perhaps you’ve been the victim. Perhaps you’ve been the culprit. We all have.

Aug 13, 2014 - Blog, Jewels of Wisdom    No Comments

Let Your True Colours Shine Through

imageThe last few years have not been the easiest roller coaster ride for me. Probably for some of you who read this too. I have gone through a complete turnover of life once before, when I came out of the closet in 2000. I learned then and re-learned in these last few years who my REAL friends were. And amazingly who was willing to befriend me, even with my heaviness of spirit, my moments of utter bawling, my times of just plain giving up!

I’m reminded of a remix of True Colours that was done recently. You can listen to it here:

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Aug 11, 2014 - Blog, Jewels of Wisdom    No Comments

Laugh

LaughOur lives have become quicker, easier, instantaneous. The world has grown smaller. We can have many more ‘friends’ than is actually possible with such things as Facebook, Twitter and other social media. We can earn more, spend more, borrow more.

Yet, oddly, we seem to be laughing less? Why is that?

I have had a life that has had plenty and little or none. I have had trials and tribulations, like anyone. Yet no matter what station of life I have managed to attain it is the ability to laugh that makes it so much more liveable.  So go ahead…laugh!

 

Aug 10, 2014 - Blog, Sunday Specials    No Comments

My Hero!

Well one of many. This lad, Kevin has become one of my heroes. Someone so young and so strong, yet so fragile, standing up for what is wrong in our world and doing all he can to help make it right…or at least okay. Bless you Kevin.

Aug 6, 2014 - Blog, Jewels of Wisdom    No Comments

It’s YOUR Journey, Not Theirs

This Jewel runs along the same lines as the posting I did last week about stories. We all have our own points of view. We all have our own truth. We all have our own journey to walk. I saw a movie some years ago. It wasn’t a spectacular movie. But it did have a point, which I like. It was called Vantage Point. A huge event was taking place and the movie was shot from several vantage points. It was the exact same event. It had the exact same players. It had the exact same outcome. But the vantage points were all different, showing different sides to the story.

Life is like that. Our journeys are like that. A couple may be together for 60 years. They have lived everyday with each other. They have eaten together, played together, raised children together; but from a different vantage point. Their truth may be slightly (or possibly hugely) different.

Their journey is different, even though they walk the same road. Remember that when you about to judge someone. Remember that when someone judges you.

Aug 4, 2014 - Blog, Jewels of Wisdom    No Comments

It Falls Into Place

It Falls Into PlaceThere are times in all our lives when the roller coaster ride that is life just doesn’t make any sense at all. We lose our job, or health, or loved one. Everything we seem to do just goes in the pooper! Yup! Been there, done that and have many  t-shirts to prove it. And so do you I’m sure.

What I’ve learned from these times, especially when they seem to drag on for a long stretch is exactly what this jewel is telling us, live in the moment. Every moment of every day find somethinganything that you enjoy: A cup of coffee, a nice chocolate, a walk, the sunshine, a warm home. We are truly blessed in our society. We have such abundance.

………This too shall pass

Aug 1, 2014 - Blog, Jewels of Wisdom    No Comments

Believe With Your Heart!

Over the last few years I have come to completely rely on my heart. Now I don’t mean that silly girlish romantic muck. I mean that feeling deep down when you know you’re on the wrong path or that someone is not to be trusted. When I’ve walked away from that I have regretted it. And I still walk away from it…often….too often.

The happiest people, big or small, believe with their hearts!Believe With Hearts

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